Sudden Loss, Sudden Grief

This post is part of the November 2020 Epilepsy Blog Relay™. Follow along all month!

People with epilepsy confront fear daily. We are brutally aware of Sudden Unexpected Death from Epilepsy (SUDEP) that takes lives every year. The pain of losing an individual can be exacerbated when a rare condition is not diagnosed quick. Comedian and actor, Bob Dibuono, witnessed this pain first hand with the death of his father to another seizure-related condition. He talked with me about his experience caring for his Dad until the end and his thoughts on his Father’s condition of New-Onset Refractory Status Epilepticus (NORSE).

Bob’s Dad was a healthy individual who played golf for exercise and leisure, sticking to his diet. In fact, he had been playing golf the day he became ill. His Dad came home from the golf course feeling disoriented. The seizures started by the time they reached the hospital that evening. The next eight weeks were spent running multiple lab tests, x-rays, and scans. Communication was poor between hospital staff and the family; however, they did work together trying to come up with a possible reason his Dad was presenting with multiple seizures. All tests came back negative which left doctors perplexed about the situation. They used heavy steroid dosages to control swelling which helped his Dad recover enough to be awake. During this time, he was also on seizure medications to control the status epilepticus. Soon, the steroids were scaled back per protocol and the seizures returned in full force. Bob saw his Dad lose his adaptive daily skills. Bob remained hopeful for an answer, driving to the hospital each day. He made his Dad smile, even in the end. His Dad was admitted to the hospital on October 3rd, 2019. He passed away on December 24, 2019.

It is hard to cope with the death of a family member, then throw in a cause that is not defined but is simply an explanation. New-Onset Refractory Status Epilepticus (NORSE) is that rare condition presenting in approximately 3,000 people per year in the United States. The prolonged seizures that occur with NORSE stem from a variety of issues including infections, strokes, metabolic, or idiopathic. The symptoms can be seen within 24-72 hours of presentation with many individuals making a recovery. Those who recover sometimes need lifelong needed supports (National Organization for Rare Disorders, 2020). Others do not get their second chance, leaving the mortality rate of NORSE at about 30%. This means around a thousand people will die this year with no firm diagnosis, but a set of symptoms and small explanation. This leaves the family left behind wondering if there was something that could have been done differently? Could medical treatment have been different? Were there signs they missed?

The “diagnosis” of NORSE for his Dad did not come until postmortem. Bob realized that communication between family and healthcare professionals is crucial. Seizures are scary and that first 24 hours seem to be pivotal for a neurology unit to get in for the evaluation. That is the one regret he has is not getting his Dad to the neurology clinic sooner (B. Dibuono, personal communication, November 2020).

Our epilepsy shows us the fragility of human life. We do not know when our time will come when our souls will be released from the physical body. It is our job to live life being happy, doing what is right by us. Take the time to express love in all forms of communication to each other. It is our responsibility to educate on seizure safety but not dwell on the “what ifs” in life. Bob has been my friend for thirteen years. I have seen him grow as a comedian, supporting him all the way. His father is with him, proud of the man he has become on this Earth. Keep making us laugh Bob. We need it.

Momma Employee (Autistic Audra) ❤

References:

National Organization of Rare Disorders (NORD). (2020). NORSE (New Onset Refractory Status Epilepticus) and FIRES (Febrile Infection-Related Epilepsy Syndrome). Retrieved from https://rarediseases.org/rare-diseases/new-onset-refractory-status-epilepticus-norse/

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