504 and the IEP: Five Steps to Take for Understanding Your Childs Rights

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504 and the IEP: Five Steps to Take for Understanding Your Childs Rights

Parenting is a tough job and adding epilepsy to the situation challenges even the fiercest parents. The doctor appointments, the medications, the surgeries, and the constant worry. The last part any parent wants to worry about is the support services for their children within the school system. Children with epilepsy are allowed services but going through the tangled web of educational laws can be confusing. The question is always where do you begin as the parent? Here are my top five rules when looking at 504 plans versus IEPs (Individual Educational Plans) and how to get the services your child needs to be successful at school.

  1. Know the definition between the 504 and the IEP. A 504 was part of the Rehabilitation Act of 1973 and states that a child may get a plan at school for one if they have a disability that limits part of a major life activity. The 504 does NOT provide the child any legal protections like the IEP can but is more of a modification. These are for children who do not need special needs education classes (Wright and Wright, 2017). A child who broke their leg needs a 504 since they will need accommodations. This is an over simplification of an example, but it works. The IEP is the larger plan for children who need more services and have a classification (or diagnosis) that allows them to have the IEP. There are thirteen main classifications and the IEP does provide legal protection for the student (Wright and Wright, 2017). Yes, your child can have both!
  2. Epilepsy Training for Staff. Yes! It is true that if your child has an IEP or a 504 plan at school, one of the requirements a parent can request is to have epilepsy and seizure training for all staff at the school. The training is done usually for the all the staff if requested but when I ask for it, I specifically say any teacher, therapist, aide, admin, adult worker or bus driver that encounters my son. This includes lunch personnel or anybody on the playground watching him at recess. He has an IEP so this is covered by the Individuals with Disabilities Act (IDEA).
  3. Please read the Procedural Safeguards booklet. Every time a parent goes to an annual IEP meeting to review their child’s progress, or put a new one in place, the school is required to give you a new procedural safeguards booklet. Take the time to read through this because each state has their own laws that beyond the federal ones. The more knowledge a parent has advocating got their own child, the more power they must make the process a little less stressful.
  4. Communication is important. Keep a notebook or some form of open communication with the staff working with your child. Let them know signs of what your child’s seizures might look like, any medication changes, triggers, etc. I have come across many school districts that are uncomfortable having children with epilepsy in their school. This stems solely on the fact they have had no training (see #2) and are not aware of what epilepsy is or what to do. This is where the 504 can come into play. The 504 can list what to do in the event of a seizure and what medications your child may be taking. It also lists the doctors, the plan for the nurse, and any documents from the child’s doctors for instructions about swimming, driving, or swinging.
  5. Classifications for IEP. I will share these because I am asked this question a lot about what qualifies a student for an IEP over just a 504? A child can get an IEP under these classifications: Autism Spectrum (ASD), Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI), Intellectual Disability (ID), Orthopedic Impairment, Deaf, Deaf-Blindness, Hearing Impairment, Visual Impairment, Language Impairment, Emotional Disturbance, Specific Learning Disability (SLD), and/or Other Health Impairment (OHI) (Lee, n.d). Depending on the classification, depends on the type of services your child might be qualified for, so the class is important. If a child has epilepsy and TBI, as a parent get an IEP with a 504.

Keep fighting the good fight! As a parent, you know your child the best. If you get stuck and do not know where to go next, reach out to local support groups. Ask a special education advocate and hire one! (Momma Employee is in WA so remote consults only or workshops if willing to fly me!)

When the special education advocate can no longer offer services, the last resort is a lawyer, but let’s keep it positive!

Love, Momma Employee


Lee, A. (n.d.). The 13 Conditions Covered Under IDEA. Retrieved from https://www.understood.org/en/school-learning/special-services/special-education-basics/conditions-covered-under-idea

Wright, P. and Wright, P. (2017). Special Education Law (2nd Ed.). Hartfield, VA: Harbor House Law Press, Inc.

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Got Questions? Ask an Autistic and the NT 💜❤️

Momma Employee and The Boss are here enjoying our summer! He is about to start day camp soon and I will be loving that as well (Momma time to herself and social time for him!).

Before he goes back I want to get some writing in… what questions do you have for us?

We are two autistic people with epilepsy living together everyday with his Dad who is an NT.

He goes to school, I am finishing up school, are you curious what life is like with TWO routines in place? How about medicines? Stimming? Disability? Language? Labels?

Be specific is you can do I can answer for you. Now is your chance to ask an autistic!! Use this opportunity because children DO NOT grow out of autism or are cured of autism. They grow up to become adults with autism.

Love, Momma Employee 💜❤️

Side Effects from Drugs

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As an autistic and living with epilepsy (and other chronic conditions) comes with accepting a life of many intertwining feelings. It is hard to pick out sometimes which is an oncoming seizure, or which might be sensory related and we need to stim. These feelings get jumbled when you start anti-epileptic medications (AEDs) and cannot tell what feelings are “true” and what is “false” since the medications cane sometimes give you reactions to your environment. As an autistic, this is highly confusing and can cause depression and anxiety if not recognized in the beginning. Thankfully, I had the support group to help me through my first three months but my son, The Boss, did not understand why he had to take medication every day when he started it. It was tough watching him go through the emotions, but we kept explaining to him that the feelings were not real. They were caused from the “orange medicine” that he had to take every day. It was a rough two weeks for him but his did not last long since he is young and only needs one medication. 

So, the question is for professionals, caregivers, and parents, what are the top five prescribed drugs and their side effects? How can you help the autistic person?  

Helping us: Assist with multiple sensory needs, be watchful of seizures, keep track of any increase in mood swings, reassurance everything will be ok!! Some of us love hugs and to be touched, and some of us don’t-please ask when you want to help reassure us. We need to stim-please don’t stop that behavior unless we are hurting ourselves, hurting others, or it’s severely interrupting our daily life. Many of the drugs can cause memory loss or trouble concentrating so please be kind if we don’t hear you, if we are tired, or we do not get it right the first couple tries. 

The top six common drugs: 

  1. Depakote-Weight gain, liver toxicity, pancreatitis, stomach upset, thinning hair 
  1. Topamax-Trouble concentrating, memory loss, nasal problems, decreased sweating 
  1. Dilantin-Seizures at high dosages, increased hair growth, gum disease 
  1. Keppra-Mood swings, changes in behavior, weight loss, loss of appetite, flu-like symptoms, memory loss, trouble concentrating 
  1. Zonegran-Kidney stones, memory loss, trouble concentrating 
  1. Benzodiazepines (Valium, Ativan, etc) (RxList, 2018) 

If you have any symptoms you experienced please feel free to share! I listed ones I had personal experience with and that were listed on the site. What got you through the side effects? 

<Momma Employee 6/28/2018 


RxList. (2018). Common Seizure Medications. Retrieved from https://www.rxlist.com/seizure_medications/drugs-condition.htm#most-common-seizure-medications  

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Back to Basics-Epilepsy 101

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Back to Basics

The Boss (my son) and I live with epilepsy everyday and I recently had some interactions with the public that has led me to really look at the lack of emergency training and awareness of signs or understanding about epilepsy. To the few followers who read my blogs (and I truly appreciate you!), I decided to take a poll on Facebook about what to write for the March Epilepsy Blog Relay. The people have spoken! It is back to basics!

Some people can have one seizure or two in an entire lifetime that was brought on by an event. This is not epilepsy; Epilepsy is when a person has two or more seizures in a lifetime that are brought on by something is not a triggering event. People with epilepsy will also have abnormal electroencephalography (EEG) that is ordered and read by a neurologist. There are many types of epilepsy that all have medical terms but what is important to know is that seizures can start in one part of the brain and affect only that part of the brain or they can start one spot and effects radiate out. Sometimes people can have a couple of spots in the brain where they will start and radiate out (Miller and Goodkin, pgs. 3-6, 2013).

The tricky part is how the signs show up on the outside to others. The brain is a big place where so much is happening and depending on where the seizure happens, will depend on how the person feels/reacts and what the seizure looks like with symptoms. A more common type of sign, a harder one to catch, is the absence seizure which are short. The person will stare into “space” or “zone out,” have possible eye fluttering, stop all behavior, stop everything. Some people will black out with absence seizures and loose tracks of time of they happen often enough (Epilepsy Foundation, 2018)

The tonic-clonic (or Grand Mal) is the one most people think about when they hear the word seizure. This is the one where the muscles become stiff, the person will black out/pass out, and then the jerking movements are seen with possible loss of bodily fluids since there is no control. These are longer lasting around a minute or two. However, there are epileptic seizures that are classified in between the brief absence and the tonic-clonic one. The Epilepsy Foundation (2018) has provided a website with many resources about all the different types of epilepsy and the signs of symptoms of all the others if you want to research a little more into all of them.

It is essential for people with epilepsy to see a doctor regularly, take their medications, and follow all instructions for a healthy lifestyle. For everyone else, the question is posed, what do you do if you see someone having a seizure? How do you know if someone is having a seizure? I highly recommend looking into local places for a first aid and medical emergency training course. Usually you can find a place that is relatively inexpensive or EPIC, LI (located on Long Island) has training classes for free on epilepsy. Some people wear first jewelry, like myself, that states I have epilepsy so if I happen to be in public and something happens someone can read my bracelet and know my medical condition.

Unless someone has medication to stop a seizure, there is not much to do as a bystander except keep the person safe from environmental hazards and calling 9-1-1 if you are unsure about the medical history. The Boss has a plan in place at his school that if the seizure is less than 5 minutes, they do not have to call 9-1-1 and only need to call me, Momma Employee, to come and get him to recover at home. Please do not put anything the person’s mouth or hold them down in any way as you might cause more harm.

I recently posted on my personal Facebook page about a woman who drove in NYC and got into an accident and ended up killing two children and injuring others because she ran a read light. It was reported later she has epilepsy. I want to share some facts with you taken from Epilepsy Foundation (2018) since many could be walking around and not know they have it. I also like to put in here: 33% of autistic people have epilepsy. Please see a neurologist.


  1. 1 in 26 in the US will develop epilepsy in their life
  2. 4 million people in the US have epilepsy
  3. 65 million people in the world have epilepsy
  4. One-third of people with epilepsy live with it uncontrolled because there are no treatments that work
  5. For 60% of the people with epilepsy, the cause is unknown



Epilepsy Foundation. (2018). Types of Epilepsy. Retrieved from https://www.epilepsy.com/learn/types-seizures

Miller, J. and Goodkin, H. (2013). Epilepsy (1st Ed). West Sussex, UK:John Wiley & Sons, Inc


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Unveiling the Mask

This post is part of the Epilepsy Blog Relay™, which will run from Nov. 1 to Nov. 30, 2017.  Follow along!

The Boss has always been the one who has run my life and I have been just fine with that! In fact, if you are fans of our page my son is referred to fondly as the Boss (because he gets to run my schedule) and I am known as Momma Employee because my job is to raise him, advocate for him, and basically dedicate my every waking moment to  him. Again, this has been a great situation for us since we have an amazing bond and have so many fun adventures together! Using social media, I log our journey for others to see that even with epilepsy and autism, our life is exciting!

Did anyone ever wonder why we have such an amazing bond together? Why I understand the Boss so well? Currently I work as a behavior therapist helping children and teenagers with autism navigate their daily lives. If you really want all my credentials you can personally talk to me about that but I don’t feel the need to list everything here. My point is has anyone ever wondered why I love my job, why I connect so well to those with autism and epilepsy, and why my life has been much more fulfilled recently?

Here is my mask coming off… Momma Employee is autistic as well with epilepsy! I prefer the term Aspie since the diagnosis would have been Asperger’s before the new DSM-V manual. Our life with autism and epilepsy is unique, tiring, fun, challenging, weird, and joyful! I can understand what the Boss thinks and feels because he is literally the mini version of myself. Our brain working on overload with no filter, the senses taking in everything with the brain having no sense of what to say ” hey that information I don’t need” or “hey yes we do need that information.”

I close my eyes and see swirling vivid colors of my neurons firing and releasing all kinds of neurotransmitters. Most days this is a great feeling as our brains can work faster than most and see details that (I am assuming) most others do not see in their environment. I am more of a visual and pattern thinker (my brain processes information like a computer filing system) while the Boss is a visual and verbal thinker processing information into pictures or words he has seen into his mind. We hear everything in our environment so the next time you are at an event with an autistic person in the room please be courtesy that they might be noticing everything right down to the door opening/closing, lights flickering, people tying on laptops, talking while someone else should be talking, vents blowing air, temperature changes, getting the point? Our brains are constantly taking all this in!!

Now, what happens on a bad day for us? Shut downs, meltdowns, emotional outbursts, anxiety. The intake of information is overwhelming; we are both introverts so the idea of being around people more than usual for us is exhausting; unfiltered statements or conversations that put us in awkward situations! (These can sometimes be hilarious if you can laugh at yourself). Then EPILEPSY rears its ugly head. Our brains cannot process anymore so it decides to shut down and restart-SEIZURE. As I type this I hear in my head the song that used to play when you restarted your computer back in the day!

The symptoms leading to a seizure are awful-headaches, fatigue, numbness, hearing voices, anxiety-but when the actual seizure happens, sometimes we are both almost relieved because suddenly we feel better and our brains are back to running at 1000mph.

What do we do about this? TeeTee is here to help us during our anxiety attacks. Momma Employee works part time with flexibility in her schedule to be with the Boss. Asking for help from our support system when we need it: examples being having groceries delivered, the Boss goes with a friend so Momma Employee can nap, get to the neurologist for our scheduled appointments, being honest about our symptoms (yeah not a problem for either us LoL #autism).

The advocates for the autism community are getting older and we need more people who will step in to take over those roles. Momma Employee and the Boss are here wanting to take on that advocate position. We are unveiling the mask. Look out world… we support neurodiversity, we are pro-stimming, and we are ready to say world…


Interesting Fact: 33% of people of autism also have epilepsy!!!! Awareness!!!!

Thank you for reading our story.


Momma Employee and the Boss

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New Beginnings

Welcome to the new page for Our Life With Autism! I am so glad to have so many followers and people who are with us for this journey in life. We hope to keep you entertained, raise some awareness and acceptance for those disabilities like epilepsy, and show the true face of the challenges we have sometimes in our daily lives.

Thank you for being part of our “family”


Momma Employee and the Boss #neurodivergents #neurodiversity